In the last article on how toConsider Counseling way to Help Save Your Marriage we understood that a family counselor or therapist will be able to help you to enhance your family relationship by helping you to explore effective communication techniques, conflict resolution solutions, and other kinds of “coping skills” that will make your family work better. A therapist can also help you work on resolving deep issues that have carried over from childhood traumas.
So, how do you choose a family therapist or counselor? Choosing a counselor does not mean picking the first one you call. It is perfectly acceptable to interview 3 to 5 counselors before deciding which one will work best for you and your spouse.
Some of the questions you might want to ask include:
· Have you worked with couples experiencing the difficulties we’re having?
· What should I expect from counseling?
· What are your treatment methods?
· What are your prices?
You can find the names of therapists by asking for referrals from friends or family members who have tried counseling themselves. There are also referral services set up by non-profit boards who can give you the name or names of licensed professionals.
If you do not get a satisfactory number of referrals, you might want to check out therapist’s sites on the internet. When the yellow pages was the only source of advertising for therapists, the consumer would get little more than a name and a phone number. But now, a counselor’s site can include a resume, articles he or she has written, and a description of their practice. You will be able to get an idea of how a therapist will work from his or her web site.
How ever you do want to make sure that the therapist you choose is licensed. Some therapists have what is known as a MFT (Marriage & Family Therapist License) which can only be obtained after a therapist completes both a master’s degree in Psychology and 1500 hours of internship work under another licensed therapist. Other acceptable licenses include the LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker), Ph.D or Psy.D. (Psychologist with a doctorate degree) and M.D. (Psychiatrist.)
Why is it Important to choose a licensed professional?
You want to choose a licensed professional because there are educational, internship, and practice standards that must be maintained to retain the license. “Relationship coaches” and others with similar names do not have similar obligations.
Different counselors have different payment options. Some offer sliding scale fees while others are able to take insurance.
Remember what ever you do, do not forget to keep on looking for for ways to help save your marriage because marriage is the central point in most peoples lifes.All other relationships( with children, with family, and with friends ) revolve around the marriage axis.