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Adjusting your body language may just be the be the key to your relationship rescue.You most have known by now that comunication is a vital part, the foundation of any relationship.Actually most relationship in crises stems from the fact that there is a lack of comunication.
According to studies carried out over 50% of your communication comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.Therefore relationship rescue start with understanding body language.
This means to pay extra attention to how you say things, how you stand, how you act than it is to what you say.
The trueth is relationship rescueing is soo much easer if you understand the body language of your partner since you can use that to read his/her mind.That is how powerful body language is if you only use it well.(if you want more advance details concerning body language you can check it out here)
Below are 4 basic body language tips you must know.
Always smile at your partner it makes your partner feel at ease and comfortable.You also need to let your partner know that you are confident and comfortable around he/she. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get in a situation that you can tell your partner is about to give you the “dead ear”during a relationship rescue, give him/her a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile 😉
2. Eye contact
This greatly differs in culture.There are some cultures that do not permit a woman to look straight in to the eyes of a man. That is considered disrespectful as oposed to the western world were when one does not maintain eye contact is considered disrespectful and it show the person is not listerning to the speaker.
In the cultures were eye contact is maintain do it but not too much because it can be intimidating during arelationship rescue .If you aim to have eye contact with your partner around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most people.Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that.
Remember maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.
3. Upright posture
Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots when having a relationship rescue talk. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.
Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.
4. Gesticulate with open palms
Basically, when you are talking to your partner and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, your partner suggests you might be cheeting on him/her) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile when you are involved in your relationship rescue talk.
It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truthand truthis what realy rescue a relationship some times from problems. And if you want your partner to begin to trust you again, making him/her think you are being straight with him/her, is important.
This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.
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